Disappointment

Disappointment is a feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfilment of one’s hopes or expectations. It is a part and parcel of life, and one should be able to understand it & deal with it. While some people choose to stay with this feeling for long, some overcome it in a jiffy and move on. Every time you feel disappointed, you should try to overcome it and come out stronger. There are certain ways that I am going to share, through which dealing with disappointment might become easier. Firstly, ‘keep your expectation level low’, like super low. The more you expect, the more you will end up getting disappointed. If you expect perfection, please adjust your expectations. Secondly, ‘accept it’. Easier said than done, but if we learn the art of acceptance, disappointments will look less scary. Don’t try to push it away or hide it under a big smile. Let the emotions flow, it might hurt for a while, but in the long run, it will feel less painful and more relaxed. Thirdly, ‘learn from it’. Every failure comes with a lesson. You have to discover what went wrong and ensure to not repeat that next time. Setbacks and disappointments are an indication of living your life fully. A sign of you trying to grow and improve your situation. You have to realize that one failure or disappointment does not mean the end of the world. In fact, it opens door to bigger and better things. A slight change in perspective can help you lead a happier life. Now it is up to you to decide the kind of life you want to live! One cannot completely eliminate the feeling of disappointment from his head, but with little change in perception, one can achieve the ability to handle it with much ease.

P.s I have created a new Instagram account (https://www.instagram.com/themillennialwriter1/) Please show some love.

So I am doing an A-Z Alphabet Challenge there, where every day I talk little about a topic in alphabetical order. So this post is also taken from there as today’s letter was ‘D’. If you are on Instagram, I would be glad if you show your love and support there as well, let’s build a stronger community and support each other. My purpose of creating an account there is to be more consistent with writing and connect with more people of this community.

Thank You!

 

Life’s Amazing Secrets: Book Recommendation

Black and White Pet Cat Valentine's Day Instagram PostHello WordPress family,

This is the first time I am posting something like this. It’s a book review, no wait, not exactly a review, but a recommendation. A few days back, I started reading “Life’s Amazing Secrets by Gaur Gopal Das”, and trust me, no book has inspired me to this extent before (The Secret by Rhonda Byrne ranks second). In such tough times when everyone is stuck in their house, feeling mentally exhausted, your mind calls for some daily dose of positivity.

In every page of the book, like literally, there is a stimulation of positivity and motivation. From every instance recited by Gaur Gopal Das, we learn something, and if we imply that ‘something’ in our lives, problems will look much smaller, mind much more stress-free, and we will start sensing an abundance of love and gratefulness in our life.

In this book, Gaur Gopal talks about 4 wheels of life that keep it going: Personal Life, Relationships, Work Life, and Social Contribution. He talks about every wheel in-depth and narrates instances which unfolds words of wisdom.

I have jotted down some of my favourite excerpts from the novel which I am going to share with you all, although in every page there is something to absorb, these are my most favourite ones which made me reassess my principles of life:

  • When we comfort someone, it is important we bring positive non-judgemental energy into conversations.
  • Behind every smile, people are going through struggles we know nothing about.
  • When negativity consumes the mind, not only do we lose the vision to see beautiful things around us, but also the ability to solve the problems that confront us.
  • Gratitude is not merely an emotion, it is a way of life which can be learnt and practised.
  • Do we have a problem in life? No? Then why worry? Yes? Can we do something about it? No? Then why worry?
  • Anyone can find dirt in someone, be the one that finds gold.
  • Learning the art of appreciation is vital for building healthy relationships.
  • Hotheads do not give good feedback, choose a better time.
  • If we need to give corrective feedback, we should invest tonnes of praise and trust into a person before doing so.
  • While forgiving, look beyond the situation, separate the person from the episode and think of higher purposes of forgiving.
  • To find your purpose in life, you must go on a journey of self-discovery.
  • Understanding our purpose takes patience and dedication.
  • Foundation of growth is understanding who you are.
  • You can only compete with yourself if you have a clear idea about your potential, your capacities and your limitations.
  • If you do what you love, you will never have to work a day in your life.
  • We can only give to others what we possess.
  • A good character has to do with our actions, not words.
  • Enjoy your life like an ice-cream before it melts!

I highly recommend everyone to get this book, it will surely leave a positive impact at the forefront of your thoughts!

Happy Reading!

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Consistency Battle

While quarantine is giving me enough time to read a lot on WordPress, know about the blogger community and get a hang of this website, I attempted to utilize this opportunity to the maximum by structuring my home page, adding menus, including an introduction, reposting a blog on my current favorite word “consistency” and so on (this I was totally ignorant of before).

I also did a course in “The Art of Blogging: Beginners Essentials” from https://learn.artofblogging.net/collections. The course ended up being extremely thought-provoking for me and made me wonder how “inconsistent” I have been in writing blogs. Also to mention, I have received an immense amount of love and motivation from the blogger network; each time I posted a blog, the insights showed signs of improvement and all the more promising. The comments are so overwhelming and positive. And my favorite part, when a fellow blogger comment on my post “this is so relatable..”, then I feel my purpose of writing a blog is solved!

Coming back to the consistency factor, how about we talk in numbers first. I wrote my first post in July 2017 and since then, I have written “just” 13 blogs which means roughly 4 blogs per year, disappointing much! These statistics force me to question my ability, my seriousness, my diminishing level of motivation and my lack of hard work and commitment towards my ambition.

I feel blessed to have all that needs to be a blogger: skills, innovation, originality, enthusiasm. Then what’s missing? Lack of inspiration? Lack of zeal? Or on the other hand perhaps a main driving force?

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With every new blog post, I promise myself to be more consistent with my writing yet it just doesn’t materialize. Either I am out of topics, or busy with my assignments, or even if I sit and write I am just not able to complete the entire post. The procrastination game is real.  Also, let me tell you all, I don’t write just for the sake of hobby or time pass, but it is significantly more to me. It’s my stress-buster, my career (hopefully), my only forte. Then what are the possible reasons for my inconsistency?

I would be glad if you all suggest me ways I can be more consistent and serious with my blogging, would love to have some constructive feedback and suggestions!

Thank You