You are NOT Alone

Are you even adulting if you are not making mistakes?

Are you even growing as a person if you are not facing any complications?

Are you even becoming stronger if you are not crying your heart out on certain days?

But amidst everything,

Are you loving yourself enough?

Are you valuing yourself enough?

If the answer is NO, then my dear friend, you are not alone. There are many people like you out there, struggling to give themselves the value and love they deserve.

Hardships and heartbreaks are a part and parcel of life, but while dealing with it, we often forget to love ourself. We start self-doubting and often “self-harming” ourself.

Self-harm does not mean physically harming, but mentally as well.

☞ We overthink and put ourself in a bad mood.

☞ We start doubting our potential of doing well in life, winning people’s heart, or being a good person.

☞ We become insecure about ourself and develop a fear to interact with people.

☞ We start compromising on things/people that do not even deserve us.

Our brain gets wired in a certain way that it makes us vulnerable for the things/people we crave for. This eventually damages us from inside without us not even realising it. We start taking everything that we already have for granted. Our sole focus goes on what we don’t have. To overcome that vulnerability we start running after that void of our life, and eventually we start losing ourself.

Someone recently told me: “There will always be a void in your life, no matter what. So start accepting and living with it.”

I know this is easier said than done, but these words of wisdom can be life changing, if implemented.

We always tend to run after the missing factor of our life like money, love, fame, attention or anything else. In the process we forget embracing what we already have.

We prefer overthinking about our insecurities and voids rather than appreciating our blessings.

Let’s just learn to appreciate our life, embrace our shortcomings, and come to terms that we cannot have it all. We all will have some or the other other struggle in our life, but how we deal with it decides the quality of our life.

Let’s promise ourself to not let our voids, insecurities, and complexities hamper our blessings.

I know all this might not be new to you, you must have read or heard this at 200 other places, even I did. But when recently I was told the same thing by a different person in a certain manner, it got stuck in my mind.

I have written this blog in a hope that maybe, similarly the same happens with anyone reading this. Maybe my words get stuck in your head and might help you bring some mental peace.

Thank You!

Ps: I might sound vague in this blog but honestly speaking, I have just poured my heart out in this blog in a hope that someone might feel me, relate to me, or learn something from my experience! 🙂

Do share your feedback in the comments section or you are always welcome to message me personally. Always ready for some good conversations 🙂

Happy Reading!

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Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award

I have been nominated for “Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award” by D.S. Chauhan. He writes amazing travel blogs where he shares his travel experience in different parts of the world. Thank you so much sir for nominating me in this category, so grateful and happy that finally after so many years of hard work and dedication on WordPress, people have started appreciating and acknowledging my work. Also, your feedback on my blogs is so motivating every time. Guys, please do follow him, and thank me later for his genuine amazing feedback and wonderful blogs! https://travelandshare.travel.blog/author/dschauhanamd/

Rules for the award are:

  • Thank the person who has nominated you and provide a link back to his/her blog.
  • Answer their questions.
  • Nominate up to 9 other bloggers and ask them 5 new questions.
  • Notify the nominees through their blog by visiting and commenting on their blog.
  • List the rules and display the “Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award” logo.

Provide the link of the Award creator of Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award as Journey in his word www.journeythroughlifeministries.com

Questions by D.S. Chauhan are: (Also thanks a lot for asking, my WordPress family will get to know me better now)

1) How did you take up blogging?

Answer: Writing has been my hobby since childhood, so while I was pursuing my graduation, I got to know about this platform and was pretty sure this is what I want to do!

2) What inspired you to start blogging?

Answer: Blogging gives me a sense of freedom. I feel liberated from my parents, peers, society, and everyone else while writing. Being a free soul but a trapped body, blogging works as a great escape for me!! So that’s how my blogging journey began.

3) What did you find interesting in blogging ?

Answer: It’s ability to hone your creativity and change/improve perspective towards life. Plus it’s an all time therapy for me!

4) How much time do you devote to blogging?

Answer: While earlier I was barely able to devote my time to it, now I ensure giving at least 30-45 minutes to it a day.

5) Do you want to use blogging as a simple hobby or a profession?

Answer: Definitely as a profession. I am a budding content writer and a blogger.

I further nominate the following people:

https://enaaghuman.wordpress.com/author/jeevanjotghuman/

https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/64030003

https://daneelyunus.com/

https://ckonfab.com/

https://topeducationhub.com/

https://thenoticeable.blog/

https://copypowerblog.wordpress.com/

https://randomnessinked.wordpress.com/

https://gsethi2409.wordpress.com/

My questions for my nominees are:

  1. Describe yourself in 5 words.
  2. What do you think is the best thing part about your blogs?
  3. How was blogging made an impact on you as a person?
  4. Your advice to the budding bloggers!

Much Love!

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You Cannot Teach Without Learning

As much as I enjoy learning and exploring new things, it gives me immense joy in sharing what I learn in that process with others. It does not include only the bookish knowledge, but also skills and lessons I learn in the process of exploring.

We often hear LEARNING SHOULD NOT STOP, but there should definitely be a motivational factor that builds a zeal to not stop learning. My motivational force is my passion and enthusiasm, to TEACH others. I feel glad when people ask me anything because I know about it. It is so fulfilling when people look out for you, trust you, and love you because you KNOW about something.

I teach, therefore I learn

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Can you relate to this feeling? Also this one is a very short write-up as I just felt like sharing my thoughts on this topic! Would love if you suggest me topics you would like me to talk about 🙂

Always ready for fun/deep/insightful/beautiful conversations on:

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You are NOT Alone

Are you even adulting if you are not making mistakes? Are you even growing as a person if you are not facing any complications? Are you even becoming stronger if you are not crying your heart out on certain days? But amidst everything, Are you loving yourself enough? Are you valuing yourself enough? If the […]

It doesn’t Get Easier, You Become Thick Skinned

It’s been really long I have penned something like this, but today this realization hit me and I wanted to share it with you all, hope you guys understand or relate to it. Developing a thick skin takes a lot of time, it’s a process. While some people think thick skinned people are ‘emotionless’, according […]

Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award

I have been nominated for “Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award” by D.S. Chauhan. He writes amazing travel blogs where he shares his travel experience in different parts of the world. Thank you so much sir for nominating me in this category, so grateful and happy that finally after so many years of hard work and dedication […]

Just Listen :)


Sometimes all they want from us is to just listen to them with an open heart & mind, pay attention to them, let them vent out, be their shoulder to cry on. They do not expect any solutions or reply from us, they just want to speak their heart out without any expectations of judgment from us. We think that they are expecting a reply from us, but on contrary they don’t want any solution, but just an ear to listen.

Personally, being a good listener helps us broaden our horizon by getting exposed to other’s ideas, opinions and perspectives. We can learn so much by just being a good listener. Socially, it fosters our relationships with others. People start relying on us. There can be nothing better than being an exceptional listener to somebody. Very often, when someone shares his/her problem with us, we ‘reply’ them telling issues we are dealing with in our life. But does that reduce their pain or makes them feel any better? No! So here’s what you should do rather:

Empathize with them, put yourself in their shoes. If you first seek to understand, you will find yourself being better understood. Don’t be afraid of long silences. Human communication involves much more than words.

Hope you liked this short & honest blog, do share your feedback! 🙂

Much Love!

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Don’t Be Happy

This one really hit hard to me. I have been pretty much productive after lockdown, which gave me a sense of pride, contentment, and sanity. Until a few days back, even after having ample work to keep myself busy, I had a constant battle with my thoughts, I felt void, unhappy, and mentally sick. I was done with everything. I even took a break from work, but that made things even worse as over-thinking took over. THE ONE WHO TALKS ABOUT POSITIVITY, GRATITUDE, AND LOVE ON HER PAGE FOUND ALL THE THREE MISSING IN HER LIFE!
But the show must go on, so did I. I worked, kept myself engaged, and convinced myself to be okay. Until last night at 3 am when I was done scrolling social media and realized how everyone is battling their own struggles. I realized I had first world problems which were nothing in comparison to those whose life apparently looked perfect. I immediately texted my best friend and ranted about all that was going in my head. She, like always, was a perfect listener & advisor. And after the entire episode, trust me, I felt so much better! I realized I should not pile up stuff in my head, forcefully make myself happy, and unnecessarily keep myself busy. Rather, just vent out everything going on in my head. IT REALLY WORKS!

Who all goes through the same? Share your thoughts! 🙂

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Turn ON your ZEN Mode

With a lot of free time in hands, thanks to lockdown, I am sure everyone is hooked to their phones. We know there’s nothing new happening in the outside world, still we are tempted to check Instagram and Snapchat now and then. Social media has become even more addictive (though dull) from the last couple of months.

All I see is people posting ways to keep themselves busy at home. Sometimes it inspires me, but many times, it bothers my mental piece. It sparks a competitive vibe in me, it makes me doubt my productivity level and makes me feel envious of other people’s talent.

Thankfully by reading some self-help book and articles, I realized that everyone is not the same and nobody is your competition. Your only competition is ‘YOU’ and be it lockdown or no lockdown, you have to work on making yourself better from your current version, and not from others.

It was pretty evident to me that my biggest enemy/distraction hampering my ‘ZEN’ state is my phone. My average screen time per day is 8 hours which is insane! Paradoxically, sometimes the best thing our phones could do is encourage us to put them down for a bit and drive our attention elsewhere. It was high time to turn my Zen mode on, so I figured out ways to engage myself, and trust me it worked, my screen time has reduced from last 5 days, I feel more productive, content and positive. So what I did was:

  • Read Novels (Currently Reading Sapiens)
  • Mandala Art (Cannot stress enough on how meditative, relaxing and engaging this activity is)
  • Journaling (My all-time stress-buster)
  • Cooking (I mean helping my mom in cooking)

Time to turn on your ZEN mode guys, share how you guys do it, would love to know and try that! 🙂

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Social Media Negativity

This post is especially about negativity on ‘social media’, which has become an inseparable toxic part of our life. We spend most of our time on phone scrolling on social media checking what is happening in other’s people life. Undeniably, we have a realisation that it is vandalizing our mental health, leaving a negative impact on our minds. We portray our happiest sides on social media, but when we see the same of others, let’s not deny, we sometimes unwantedly feel insecure, wretched or jealous. For instance, if you are unhappy with your job while at the same time you see your friend posting happy pictures working in his office, you might feel envious. This is human nature and there’s no running away from it. But thanks to social media, no matter how much we attempt to stay positive, it drags us into the pool of negative emotions.

I have tried ‘n’ number to times to uninstall social media apps from my phone, but that has not happened for more than 25 days! I tried diverting myself by reading books, watching shows, blogging and what not but failed to get away from it. I resist as much as I can but then social media has become that inseparable part of my life, that no matter how hard I drive myself, I get back into this toxic relationship. I even ‘unfollowed’ a few accounts which I felt are not doing any good to me. But all this hardly made a minor difference to me.

I am still as addicted to social media as I was earlier, in fact even more now (thanks to lockdown), my mind is over-consumed with unhealthy updates about other people’s lives, I devote hours stalking people I barely know (and then form my opinion about them) and last but not the least, I compare my life with their life (without having any slightest idea about what’s going on the other side of their life which they have not put on social media).

I can see it’s already taking a toll on me. So before it goes beyond accepted limits, please suggest to me what do you guys do to dodge social media negativity? NEGATIVITY

Disappointment

Disappointment is a feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfilment of one’s hopes or expectations. It is a part and parcel of life, and one should be able to understand it & deal with it. While some people choose to stay with this feeling for long, some overcome it in a jiffy and move on. Every time you feel disappointed, you should try to overcome it and come out stronger. There are certain ways that I am going to share, through which dealing with disappointment might become easier. Firstly, ‘keep your expectation level low’, like super low. The more you expect, the more you will end up getting disappointed. If you expect perfection, please adjust your expectations. Secondly, ‘accept it’. Easier said than done, but if we learn the art of acceptance, disappointments will look less scary. Don’t try to push it away or hide it under a big smile. Let the emotions flow, it might hurt for a while, but in the long run, it will feel less painful and more relaxed. Thirdly, ‘learn from it’. Every failure comes with a lesson. You have to discover what went wrong and ensure to not repeat that next time. Setbacks and disappointments are an indication of living your life fully. A sign of you trying to grow and improve your situation. You have to realize that one failure or disappointment does not mean the end of the world. In fact, it opens door to bigger and better things. A slight change in perspective can help you lead a happier life. Now it is up to you to decide the kind of life you want to live! One cannot completely eliminate the feeling of disappointment from his head, but with little change in perception, one can achieve the ability to handle it with much ease.

P.s I have created a new Instagram account (https://www.instagram.com/themillennialwriter1/) Please show some love.

So I am doing an A-Z Alphabet Challenge there, where every day I talk little about a topic in alphabetical order. So this post is also taken from there as today’s letter was ‘D’. If you are on Instagram, I would be glad if you show your love and support there as well, let’s build a stronger community and support each other. My purpose of creating an account there is to be more consistent with writing and connect with more people of this community.

Thank You!

 

Life’s Amazing Secrets: Book Recommendation

Black and White Pet Cat Valentine's Day Instagram PostHello WordPress family,

This is the first time I am posting something like this. It’s a book review, no wait, not exactly a review, but a recommendation. A few days back, I started reading “Life’s Amazing Secrets by Gaur Gopal Das”, and trust me, no book has inspired me to this extent before (The Secret by Rhonda Byrne ranks second). In such tough times when everyone is stuck in their house, feeling mentally exhausted, your mind calls for some daily dose of positivity.

In every page of the book, like literally, there is a stimulation of positivity and motivation. From every instance recited by Gaur Gopal Das, we learn something, and if we imply that ‘something’ in our lives, problems will look much smaller, mind much more stress-free, and we will start sensing an abundance of love and gratefulness in our life.

In this book, Gaur Gopal talks about 4 wheels of life that keep it going: Personal Life, Relationships, Work Life, and Social Contribution. He talks about every wheel in-depth and narrates instances which unfolds words of wisdom.

I have jotted down some of my favourite excerpts from the novel which I am going to share with you all, although in every page there is something to absorb, these are my most favourite ones which made me reassess my principles of life:

  • When we comfort someone, it is important we bring positive non-judgemental energy into conversations.
  • Behind every smile, people are going through struggles we know nothing about.
  • When negativity consumes the mind, not only do we lose the vision to see beautiful things around us, but also the ability to solve the problems that confront us.
  • Gratitude is not merely an emotion, it is a way of life which can be learnt and practised.
  • Do we have a problem in life? No? Then why worry? Yes? Can we do something about it? No? Then why worry?
  • Anyone can find dirt in someone, be the one that finds gold.
  • Learning the art of appreciation is vital for building healthy relationships.
  • Hotheads do not give good feedback, choose a better time.
  • If we need to give corrective feedback, we should invest tonnes of praise and trust into a person before doing so.
  • While forgiving, look beyond the situation, separate the person from the episode and think of higher purposes of forgiving.
  • To find your purpose in life, you must go on a journey of self-discovery.
  • Understanding our purpose takes patience and dedication.
  • Foundation of growth is understanding who you are.
  • You can only compete with yourself if you have a clear idea about your potential, your capacities and your limitations.
  • If you do what you love, you will never have to work a day in your life.
  • We can only give to others what we possess.
  • A good character has to do with our actions, not words.
  • Enjoy your life like an ice-cream before it melts!

I highly recommend everyone to get this book, it will surely leave a positive impact at the forefront of your thoughts!

Happy Reading!

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Consistency Battle

While quarantine is giving me enough time to read a lot on WordPress, know about the blogger community and get a hang of this website, I attempted to utilize this opportunity to the maximum by structuring my home page, adding menus, including an introduction, reposting a blog on my current favorite word “consistency” and so on (this I was totally ignorant of before).

I also did a course in “The Art of Blogging: Beginners Essentials” from https://learn.artofblogging.net/collections. The course ended up being extremely thought-provoking for me and made me wonder how “inconsistent” I have been in writing blogs. Also to mention, I have received an immense amount of love and motivation from the blogger network; each time I posted a blog, the insights showed signs of improvement and all the more promising. The comments are so overwhelming and positive. And my favorite part, when a fellow blogger comment on my post “this is so relatable..”, then I feel my purpose of writing a blog is solved!

Coming back to the consistency factor, how about we talk in numbers first. I wrote my first post in July 2017 and since then, I have written “just” 13 blogs which means roughly 4 blogs per year, disappointing much! These statistics force me to question my ability, my seriousness, my diminishing level of motivation and my lack of hard work and commitment towards my ambition.

I feel blessed to have all that needs to be a blogger: skills, innovation, originality, enthusiasm. Then what’s missing? Lack of inspiration? Lack of zeal? Or on the other hand perhaps a main driving force?

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With every new blog post, I promise myself to be more consistent with my writing yet it just doesn’t materialize. Either I am out of topics, or busy with my assignments, or even if I sit and write I am just not able to complete the entire post. The procrastination game is real.  Also, let me tell you all, I don’t write just for the sake of hobby or time pass, but it is significantly more to me. It’s my stress-buster, my career (hopefully), my only forte. Then what are the possible reasons for my inconsistency?

I would be glad if you all suggest me ways I can be more consistent and serious with my blogging, would love to have some constructive feedback and suggestions!

Thank You